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🧠Thinking Vs Overthinking
There is a huge difference between thinking and overthinking.
Thinking helps me move.
Overthinking keeps me in the same place.
I started noticing this in myself very clearly.
When I am thinking, I am dealing with what is actually in front of me.
What do I want?
What do I know?
What is the decision I need to make now?
What is the next step?
But when I am overthinking, suddenly I am trying to solve an entire future that doesn't even exist yet.
What if it doesn't work?
What if people don't understand me?
What if I choose wrong?
What will people say?
What if there is a better way?
Do I need more information?
And suddenly I have 10 problems in my head when, in reality, maybe I only have one.
I saw this recently while creating my own event.
The moment I thought, "I want to do an event," my brain could immediately go everywhere.
I need this. I need that. Landing page. Team. Organization. Everything.
And I stopped myself.
No.
What is the first thing?
Pick the date.
That's it.
Then I did the next thing.
Then the next.
And suddenly something that looked huge in my head became easy when I was actually doing it.
This made me understand something:
Sometimes we are not overthinking because we don't know enough.
We are overthinking because we want certainty before we experience something.
And certainty is exactly what we cannot have.
I see the same thing in business.
We want to know if the offer will sell before putting it in front of people.
We want to know if people will understand our message before saying it.
We want to know if the project will work before starting it.
We want to know step 10 while we are still standing at step 1.
And for me, this is where self-leadership comes in.
Leading myself doesn't mean that I always know the answer.
It doesn't mean I don't listen to experts.
It doesn't mean I don't research.
It means I know what I want, I take the step that exists now, and then I allow reality to give me information.
If it works, beautiful.
If it doesn't work, also information.
Then I research.
I adjust.
I change.
I try again.
But at least now I am working with reality instead of all the realities my mind is creating.
This changed the way I see uncertainty.
Instead of:
"What if?"
I can come back to:
"Okay. And what? So what? Let's see."
Not recklessly.
Not without thinking.
But with the willingness to experience.
Because I can sit for three months thinking about what could happen, or I can take one step and finally have something real to work with.
And maybe this is one of the biggest things I have learned about leading myself:
Not everything that comes into my head is right.
A thought can be fear.
A thought can be a prediction.
A thought can be somebody else's belief.
A thought can be an expectation.
A thought can also be useful information.
But just because the thought appeared doesn't mean I have to give it authority.
For me, leading myself is becoming the center of my own experience again.
Knowing what I want.
Knowing why I want it.
Taking the next step.
Experiencing.
Seeing what reality gives me.
And adjusting from there.
I would love to know:
Where in your life or business are you currently trying to know step 10 before allowing yourself to take step 1?
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🧠Thinking Vs Overthinking
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