Day 4 activity
Some of my common themes have been complaining to someone about someone or something. I usually employed an incredulous "Why blah blah blah?!" This not only set the tone, but also the way the whole interaction would play out. I would come with such disbelief about what had happened because I felt like it was adequately expressing my shock and inability to accept whatever I was talking about. I've done this so many times that people just began to expect that type of encounter with me. But what I was really doing was type casting. I car myself in a certain role as well as anyone who was listening to me. I also continued to cast a familiar set of characters: the villain, the perpetrator, the scapegoat, the captive audience, and of course, the victim. These same stories have repeated over and over. Change some names, places and a few other details, but essentially the same. I did this because knowing the roles of people, knowing the terrain makes life easier to navigate and 2 because familiarity feels comfortable. However, it wasn't until I learned to break this narrative that I was able to have some more space in my life, more flexibility in my experiences and more real life connection. Breaking the story patterns can be a bit terrifying at first, but we eventually discover new terrain and it's worth it.
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Day 4 activity
