Most people don't need another motivational speech. They need a direction. Because you can spend years saying: "I need to get my health together." "I need to make more money." "I need to build something." "I need to stop wasting so much time." And somehow six months later, you're still having the exact same conversation with yourself. The problem isn't always a lack of ambition. Sometimes it's that the goal is still just a vague idea floating around in your head. You want a different life, but you haven't clearly defined: Where you are. Where you're going. What's actually separating the two. That's where the 90-day framework gets interesting. Ninety days is long enough to create meaningful change, but short enough that you can't hide behind some distant future version of yourself. You can look at your life honestly. Not the life you're planning to have. The life you're actually living right now. Your health. Your money. Your relationships. Your relationship with yourself. Then you define where you want those things to be 90 days from now. And here's the part I think gets really powerful: You also define where you'll end up if nothing changes. Because inaction has a direction too. Your current habits are already taking you somewhere. The question is whether you're consciously choosing that destination. Then you work backwards. Instead of: "I want to completely transform my life." You get to: "What needs to be true by day 90?" Then: "What needs to be true by day 60?" Then day 30. Then this week. Then today. Until the enormous goal becomes something almost boring. A few pages. A workout. A conversation. An hour of focused work. An uncomfortable decision. One action that moves the system forward. And then you build your environment around that action. You remove the friction. You stop relying on motivation. You make the behaviour easier to repeat. And every week, you review what's actually happening. Not emotionally. Not based on whether you feel successful. You look at the evidence.

I choose Joy❣️

Among the most wise and frequently cited quotes from Marcus Aurelius is: “You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realise this, and you will find strength.” This reminds us to solely focus on what we can control (our inner world), as anything else simply is outside of our domain. Also that it's *our opinion* about externals that drives us mad, not the things themselves.

It's been a year since the last one! This is the most popular and powerful challenge I've ever done, and I've had over 5,000 people go through it over the last few years Every time I do, afterwards, for MONTHS I get DMs from people who've attracted love, gone deeper in their relationships and stopped abandoning themselves in general The challenge gets to the root of patterns developed in childhood, so it goes much further beyond love and into relationships in general and connection in general We would be doing live meditations, exercises on zoom, live coaching, and a step-by-step process to remove the subconscious patterns that block connection and love If I run this in the next month, would you join? And also, what are your biggest blocks to connection, relationship, etc.?