@Nora Gianna Hello lovely lady . The absolute biggest sign that you’ve crossed the line from loving into over-functioning is when your well-being, your peace, and your physical energy are consistently being used as the currency to keep someone else's life from collapsing. When you are loving someone, your presence expands both of you; it empowers them to find their own footing, make their own choices, and carry their own weight. But when you are over-functioning, you become the invisible scaffolding for their life. You anticipate their needs before they feel them, fix their mistakes before they can experience the consequence, and manage their anxiety at the direct expense of your own nervous system. You can spot it by asking one simple question: If I stop managing this, holding this, or stepping in right now, does love remain - - or does panic take over? If the immediate reaction is panic - - the fear that everything will fall apart because you aren't holding it together—that isn't love. That's a full-time job you never applied for. True love has boundaries, and it trusts the other person enough to let them stumble, learn, and carry their own load.