Here in Canada 🇨🇦 it is Thanks Giving long Weekend. So it's turkey dinner, pumpkin pie and family gatherings. I'm doing some domestic clean up, hitting the gym, and getting out into nature. Here on the west coast we've been blessed with some epic Indian Summer weather - Which means an extended sunny summer but with lower temperatures. So I am getting out to enjoy it, get some content done, and we'll have our extended family dinner gathering tomorrow night at a new restaurant. What are you plans this weekend? Let's hear it. Cheers!

This is my raw, real and unvarnished follow up video that got the attention of a lot of people. It's all around the idea of starting over in your 40's, 50s and 60s. I'm doing a wholesale reboot towards the most remarkable chapter of my life. Yes, it's late in the season of life, but time is just not my concern. What matters is that I get started and that I finish strong. Come along on the journey with me. Watch it now. Leave a comment about your reboot. Where do you need support? You've got this! Be Remarkable! Coach Dwayne

Brother, I wanted to pop in here with a mindset hack that got me thinking. Last night I was watching a video about the difference between a 1% man and the average man when it comes to success and money creation. The 1% man just knows who he is. Money to him is a natural extension of who he is. He sees life as his to shape and form. He sees challenges as a game and one he's wired to win. He sees his connection to his higher power as a natural harmony rather than something he's searching for. The average man is always chasing. He sees life as a battle and something he's got to get better at. Everything appears to be just "over there". "If only I had more money, more smarts, more love, more intelligence...then I would be able to...(fill in the blank). Being left wanting is his life experience. In most cases the 1% man wasn't born with the mindset of a winner. He had to work at it. A lot! He had to become the man that wins by default. I too am working on this in my own life. Every day I am meditating on my ideal reality. But not from wishing or hoping...But by BEING. Going beyond believing that it is possible for me, but KNOWING it is my divine right and my true essence of the man I am. It's not a magical cure for a lifetime of struggle. It takes some time for the self to truly feel it at a core level. Every day! I am being tested to see if I actually embody the old "struggle" and "average" mindset, or do I decide to accept the truth of the man I am? The truth is, you and I both have the DNA of a 1% man. You were endowed with the power and privilege of inheriting the kingdom! This is the true mindset of The Remarkable Man. Set aside 5 minutes in the morning, mid day, and in the evening to remind yourself that you are a man that expects the best. That everything always works out in your favour. That money and success is your birth right. That you have a gift for solving any problem. That love and happiness is just a natural extension of your personality. Breathe this in Brother!

Brother, there's a part of you that knows there's a greater more remarkable version within you. However, as much as the awareness is there, there's a part of you that is freaked out about the prospect of him actually becoming real. You know you have to make some wholesale changes, and do some things that are not fun, and push you way the F out of your comfort zone. But the ego seems to be the keeper at the gate and inexplicably shuts you down. Not to pull you from your dreams, but to keep you safe and to keep you within known parameters. This is the secret sauce that I too continue to work on mastering. To do things that are new, unfamiliar and what most men refuse to do. The one lesson I want to impart on you today in the quest toward reinvention is to get really clear on the identity of the man you want to be. For me, it has always been the persona of "The Remarkable Man". Who is Dwayne Klassen when he identifies fully with that persona? Who am I when I embody the energy and vibe of The Remarkable Man I know is within? What decisions does the Remarkable Man persona make versus Dwayne Klassen? What is his day like? How committed to his dreams is he? How often does he do the things that must be done to uplift and serve others? I have also another persona, it's a bit more euphemistic but it is also very real about the level of abundance I envision for my life. He's "First Klass Klassen". He's a man that knows he deserves the best of the best. He's worked hard and is living the dream. He has a high degree of delusional optimism for what he deserves and how he lives. So that's my challenge for you, what is the ultimate persona you can envision for yourself that will be the persona that can pull you and prod you through the reinvention phase you are about to embark on? I'd love to hear you comments. You've got this! Be Remarkable! Coach Dwayne

This was a question in The Remarkable Man Newsletter on LinkedIn and I thought you might relate to this. I know I did. Question: "Coach, I've gone quiet at home. Whatever I do, it's wrong. The dishes, the parenting, the way I answered a question, all of it. So I stopped engaging. I go cold, I keep my answers short, and I spend more time in the garage or at the office than I need to. Honestly, I think I'm just protecting my peace. She says I've checked out. I say I'm done being the bad guy. Is going silent really so bad if I'm just tired of losing?" - Norman S. Answer: Brother, I'm going to start by saying I know exactly where you're standing, because I've stood there myself. I know the fatigue of feeling like nothing you do lands right, and I know how convincing the silence feels from the inside. It feels like strength. It feels like you're finally putting a boundary in place. It isn't, because the resentment smoulders. And I care too much about you and your marriage to pretend otherwise. Call It For What It Is Going cold is not a boundary. It's a withdrawal. A boundary says, "Here is what I will and won't accept, and here is what I'm going to do about it." Silence says nothing at all. It leaves her guessing, and it leaves you with the story that you're the one who has been wronged. That story is where the trouble sits. When you decide you're done being wrong, you quietly hand your power to the very person you feel powerless against. You have made her behaviour the author of your behaviour. That is victim energy, even when it wears the costume of a calm, composed man who just doesn't engage anymore. You said you're protecting your peace. Look closely at what that peace costs. Silence doesn't protect a marriage, it starves it. Every night you stay cold, she learns that reaching for you gets her nothing, and she either pushes harder or she stops reaching altogether. Either way, the distance grows. Why Good Men Go Quiet Most men who end up here are not lazy or unfeeling. They are usually conscientious men who hate failing. When they feel like they are failing at home no matter how hard they try, the nervous system picks the fastest exit from the pain, and that exit is shutting down.