Authentic masculinity demands we admit when we miss the mark. I created a video before this one and promptly deleted it as I was editing it. Why? Because I hated it. I felt it lacked the real me. I am sharing a truth and a promise with you in this video. We often fall into the trap of performing rather than being. After reviewing that recent long-form video, I realized I had missed the mark on true connection. Rebuilding after 40 is not about getting it right every time; it is about having the courage to course-correct when you lose your way. This is a moment of honest self reflection. When we commit to showing up as who we actually are, we invite better results in our lives and relationships. Focus on personal growth for men that prioritizes integrity over performance, and you will find the strength to move forward on your own terms. What are your thoughts? Leave a comment. Cheers! Coach Dwayne

Brother, if you have not hit the open road in some time, I highly recommend it. Whether you are the driver or riding shotgun, it really doesn't matter. Just pick a destination and go!! I'll be honest, it has been awhile for me. But I decided to make the trip from Vancouver to Calgary with my Dad for the weekend. It's my Mom's 90th Birthday Sunday so it's kinda a big deal. My Dad no longer can do airports and lineups, so the road was the only other option. The truth is, being behind the wheel is my happy place. I use to do this trip in one shot, doing the route as quickly and efficiently as I could. Minimal breaks and pit stops. Every semi truck, UHaul or RV I could pass was a point and another win! So taking long breaks meant those slow vehicles would eventually pass me and I'd lose ground. Today, I still like to be ahead of the masses, but the highway has improved dramatically that passing is now so much easier, and travelling with my Dad extended the trip to two days. So I'm actually enjoying the ride so much more. The journey I am referring to is truly uniquely a Western Canadian one with our vast distances and single lane highways that make road trips so rewarding. However, where ever you find yourself, I'm sure you have the equivalent in your part of the world. Whether you are in a relationship or not, either make it a couples thing or a bro thing, even rent a car if you don't own one. But have a conversation and say, "You know what, It's been awhile since I've been on a road trip...Let's drive to ????? Next weekend. Make it happen. It's good for the soul! Coach Dwayne PS The Short Video is us driving through the Canadian Rockies.

My latest video just dropped on the YouTube Channel. At 61, I'm rebuilding my life. And one of the biggest realizations I've had is that changing my circumstances won't mean much if I don't change the way I see myself. I've spent years coaching men through some of the most challenging transitions of their lives. But now I'm taking a deeper look at my own journey, the patterns I've repeated, the identity I've carried, and the man I need to become to create the next remarkable chapter of my life. Because here's something I've come to understand: You will never consistently outperform the identity you believe belongs to you. Read that again. Whether you're starting over at 40, 50, 60 or beyond, this conversation is about the inner transformation that needs to happen before lasting external change can take hold. I'm sharing my own experiences, insights and challenges as I rebuild my life at 61, and I invite you to come along for the journey. Let me ask you something: What is one belief about yourself that you know needs to change before you can create the life you really want? Share it in the comments. I'd love to hear your perspective. You've got this! Be Remarkable! Coach Dwayne

You will never expand beyond what your self image will allow. Read that again. This piece of insight is one that has probably been the most in my life. It was one a both loved and loathed. I loved it because it was a very simple truth, and my higher self was pointing the way. I loathed it because my ego knew I was not at the self image I needed to be to get to where I want to go. I have spent the better part of my life languishing in "Average" or way less than my true potential. I have had some epic wins and successes that seemed to convince me I had hit a new standard for my self image. Only to be back to where I was a few months or a few years later. My self image was not there yet. So this is the work I am focused on. This is the deep work I am doing and do with my clients. It's a never ending journey to be the Keeper At The Gate of your mind, to ensure you are doing the things require to feel and BE the self image of the Remarkable Man within. Today, ask yourself...Who's wining today? It's either you ego fighting to stay small, stay safe, and a victim of circumstance. Or it's the self that has embodies the fullness of the Remarkable Man you want to be. You've seen the sci-fi movies where an alien essence has made the human a host for a symbiotic connection. The human gains all the knowledge, awareness and even strength of a God, and the alien entity gets to move through our world and experience life as a human. I want you to image that your highest and greatest self did just that...Merged with you to take over your body. The old persona is gone and the new persona has 100% control of your life. Breathe that in. Go ahead...Imagine it with all your power. Now act as if. Just BE him now! Notice I didn't say, "Give it a try"? Don't try to do it. BE it! This is what I am doing to bust through my limiting stories that say I can't. I AM Remarkable! You've got this! Be Remarkable! Coach Dwayne Leave a comment about your situation and have you ever done this exercise?

This the latest edition of The Remarkable Man Newsletter on LinkedIn. I wanted to share it here with you. I recently watched a video of a high level coach talking about a billionaire he had worked with. The man had the businesses, the properties and the kind of net worth most of us never think about, and he had a seat at tables where the decisions that move industries get made. Yet behind closed doors, he admitted something very telling. Some mornings he still woke up feeling like he didn't belong in any of it, and he was waiting for somebody to figure out that he wasn't as good as everyone believed. I was surprised to hear this from a man that plays in what most would consider the rarified air of the elite class. Here's a man admitted a feeling I too have felt. I have walked into rooms where I looked around and wondered how I got there, and I have carried that quiet voice that says you're only one mistake away from it falling down. If a billionaire and a coach can feel the same thing, then maybe the gap between us is a lot smaller than we have been telling ourselves. The Mask Most Men Are Wearing Most of the men I work with are not failures. They are founders, executives, tradesmen who built companies, fathers who provide, and men who have earned every bit of respect they get. Almost all of them wear the same mask, and it says "I'm good enough, I've got this, everything is under control." Underneath that mask sits a quieter belief that they are not really good enough, and that sooner or later someone will see through the act. Men rarely say this out loud, because we were raised to believe that admitting it is the same as proving it. So we work harder, we achieve more, and we keep the mask on tighter. We tell ourselves that the next promotion, the next milestone or the next number in the bank account will finally quiet the voice, but it doesn't. It simply moves the goalposts a little further out. What a Billionaire Teaches Us About Ourselves The most freeing part of that story is the proof that this feeling has nothing to do with your results. A man can build an empire and still carry the belief that he is not enough, which tells you the feeling was never an accurate measurement of anything. It is a human experience, and it shows up in every income bracket, every industry and every room.