1. C/A Labor I do at home: Bringing in/sorting mail, managing photos, insurance. 2. C/A Labor I do in career: Review/respond to emails. 3. C/A Labor my partner does at home: Reviewing financial info/bills. • 4. C/A Labor my partner does in career: Review/respond to emails.

- Took the lead getting Christmas cards out to friends—kinkeeping. - Anticipated needing gift cards for some of the cards, and made a list of which cards to get. - Lined up a Facebook marketplace purchase for my son’s birthday, and then followed up with the seller when the item wasn’t what was described. - Remembered a need for groceries, and suggested stopping at a store that was on our way to our kids’ friend’s birthday party.

- Katie carried the mental labor of suggesting gifts for extended family who asked what the kids would enjoy. - She reached out to friends who we try to see each Christmas to coordinate schedules (kinkeeping). - Made a suggested shopping list for this evening while she was working out and I went grocery shopping (usually not my forte). - Followed up on gift giving to ensure the kids’ teachers got their presents.

- Katie carried the mental labor of planning a meal for someone in our church, thinking through what they would enjoy and what would fit in our schedule for her to make. - Planned the evening out so I could run some errands solo while she took the kids and met up with a friend—kin-keeping since her friend is a former coworker, but is an important person in her life, and carved out time, even with kids in tow. - Reminded me to follow up with our daughter’s OT about something we had been meaning to contact her about. - Researched and got recommendations about soccer leagues for our son who’s been begging to play soccer.

There isn’t much that is my responsibility and my spouse’s responsibility. For example, we both grocery shop or we both mowed the lawn. We both make dinner or we both clean the house. It really takes a lot off my mental load especially when things get overwhelming. Thanks Katie and Jake Muller for referring us.