@Zach Watson hahaha. I made up the term out of necessity. We were venmo-ing so many people at one point. People who would have normally been a part of the village to help. Lol :/

@Zach Watson That's amazing! We find, that just finding people to look after our son is taxing. The mental load of the initial search, setting up meetings, trial days, and even if someone is the right fit, our son might reject them or take while to warm up. Then the primary parent on that day is left to manage an adult and a toddler, trying to bridge the gap and make the meeting smooth. I can't tell you how many times we paid a babysitter just for one of us to also go to the park with both of them because my son doesn't want the babysitter there. We've sent so many home early...even some of his trusted nannies when was little it was hard for him to sync up at times. When we did have success it was amazing.

It’s wild. It’s revealing how defensive I can be reading it. “That’s not me!” Inner dialogue type of thoughts. But I’m here for it and hoping to keep an open mind to gleen some insight.

For sure.

Boston. 1 kid (3.5), living with my spouse. We both are freelance. No childcare and our kid is not in school or any programs. We play hot potato parent all day. Every day is slightly different. A lot of communication around an ever evolving schedule of who is with our kid. My work is more unpredictable than my partner’s, making some weeks very stressful when I need to take last minute work or weekend work. Our kid also goes to bed late 10/11 and wakes up around 7. I work late mornings and at night I order to have large chunks of time with my kid mid day (1-7pm ish) This is hard to find time to be with just my partner. We have no family help and don’t trust anyone to be alone with our kid atm.

Thanks for responding Zach! We’re not rushing into a program. He’s only 3.5. We are okay with delaying school. We feel sending kids before 4 or 5 is a little rushed for their development in terms of setting him up for a secure attachment.