There I was as a teenager going around complementing everyone thinking it was some kind of display of social skills.. and that it would make people like me..they might have all thought I was bringing up stuff for them.. incidentally I realized before that I had some kind of core wound that people wouldn't like me.. always feel like I push people's trigger points in a sub conscious self sabotagey way whilst consciously thinking it's all cool..but TBH their stuff probably came up because they had the energetic frequency that compelled my brain to say it as an opportunity to confront their stuff... Unfortunately most didn't seem self aware enough and then they vibrationally matched my shadow stuff.. leading to the dynamic of feeling like they didn't like me.. all repressed shadow stuff in equals and opportunities..lovely..lots of stuff to dig through! I actually had a "good girl" said almost repeatedly regardless of how big or small the thing that I did was.. I didn't realize until I hadn't been around it and a nurse asked my daughter to stand on some scales years ago and every movement she made she said "good girl" like for stepping on, steeping off..it was like 8 times in a few minutes like training a dog..but the flip side of good girl is the implication that if you don't do the thing they want, you are bad.. and it's not your behaviour, but your actual identity..eek..