What I've learned after decades of struggles with ADHD is that I was never meant to work through it on my own, yet that is exactly what I tried to do for decades. Every failed follow-through was my fault because I didn't have the disciple or motivation. Every bout of addiction and depression only prolonged the agony, frustration...the anger. It was only when I invested in a mens group back in 2022 called Rising Fathers that I finally learned what it meant to surround myself with like minded individuals whom I could connect with. That was the beginning of my transformation. I made significant progress in my life and once the program ended for me I continued making progress....until I didn't. Without the support of others I fell back into my old ways. That was until I hired a coach, then joined and completed the Jay Shetty Coaching certification program and became a coach myself. I've learned to coach others and myself along the way AND i continue to receive coaching from my colleagues and hired and ADHD entrepreneur coach to help me build out my school and coaching business. The one most important lesson I've learned along the way is that I was never meant to do this on my own and the more I ask for help and rely on others the further I'm able to progress in my own life. The reel I posted on IG was a bit more direct and left out this back story but I feel you need to hear the whole story in order to understand where my mind was at when I posted this.

Excited 😀 to get another session on the calendar for Wed, Sep 16 @ 1:30pm EST. This one is is called "Practical Tools for ADHD Minds" so be sure to save it to your calendars In it we'll walk the six clusters of executive function, activation, focus, effort, emotions, memory, and action, and pull out 22 practical tools you can start using this week. You'll also have the opportunity to score yourself across all six, see which ones are costing you the most right now, and leave knowing exactly where to put your attention next. No willpower advice. Just systems that work with an ADHD brain instead of against it. Look forward to seeing many of you there!

😔 For years I thought the problem was me. Not enough discipline, not enough willpower, just not trying hard enough. What actually changed things wasn't trying harder, it was building a system that worked with how my brain is actually wired. 🚫 Sobriety cleared the noise and now I'm 461 days sober. 🔍 Coaching helped me see the blindspots I was too close to see myself. ☀️ A non negotiable morning routine gave my brain the structure it was craving. 💪 Exercise 4-5x a week at OrangeTheory strengthened my mind and body. 🥗 Food and a dopamine focused shake gave it the fuel to keep going. Everything on that list exists for a reason, and none of them work in isolation. This is what I mean when I say wiring not willpower and this is why I promote identity, lifestyle and nutrition as the tools anyone can use to manage their ADHD. Focus on the basics and what you can control. If any part of this sounds familiar, drop a comment 💬, I'd love to hear which one hits closest to home for you. You can find the IG post here as well.

Your ADHD brain 🧠 craves novelty. That's not a flaw, it's fuel. Next time you're stuck avoiding something, don't force more willpower. Change the scenery instead. That was me this morning. I promised myself a jog on the trails in the woods nearby. Quiet, peaceful, the kind of run that calms my mind. But the motivation just wasn't there. So I implemented a technique that I suggest to my clients and added some novelty. I decided to jog through a cemetery a few blocks away instead, one I'd never explored before and it became an instant adventure. 🏃 Cemeteries have always been a strange kind of sanctuary for me. I've jogged them, ridden my motorcycle through them, even taught my son to drive in one. There's a stillness there that most places don't have. That small shift, same goal, different scenery, was all it took. I ended up jogging and walking for 45 minutes. Longer than I planned, and I even caught some of it on video for an IG post. You can find the IG post here as well.

Please help me welcome 👋 our newest members this week to the community! The community is small and growing so every member contributes its success. So please help me give a warm welcome to them all: @Rafael Purificacion @Shayna Harrison @Leslie Young @Gold Golden @Simon Nygren @Javier Torres @Patrick Trachsler @Fay D @Sara Fredrick @Amy Walker @Gitte Lundbergh @Henry Brinker @Patti Sheaz @Ebone Holmes @Cecelia McCullough @Dylan Greene @Pete Jones @Raenita Ivill @Darryl Brown Brown @Darren Byrd This community is all about helping others learn to manage their ADHD and that it becomes second nature. If you can optimize the mind and body and leverage the systems that work for you than focus shows up when you need it, follow-through becomes a thing you just do, memory improves ever so slightly and emotions are stay grounded. There is no magic pill and you have to put in the work, but if you do I can guarantee that every ADHD struggle you've ever had will improve, to some degree, over time. Welcome everyone 🙏 Joe