Most people were taught how to behave around another human being. Very few people were shown how to remain connected to themselves while another human being is present. So let us make connection a little more human. 1. The body gets to answer before the mouth does. The mind loves an immediate response. The body may need a breath first. 2. Curiosity gets the seat that judgment used to occupy. Instead of asking, “What is wrong with them?” Let the body ask, “What happened inside them?” 3. The feeling is allowed to exist without becoming a verdict. “I feel forgotten” is vulnerability. “You never care about me” is the mind passing sentence. 4. Nobody has to win the conversation. The mind wants a winner. Connection wants both human beings to remain in the room. 5. The reach deserves to be noticed. The angry text may be a reach. The silence may be a reach. The joke may be a reach wearing a funny little disguise. 6. The body does not have to perform connection. The nervous system may be quiet. The nervous system may tremble. The nervous system may need time before it can stay open. 7. Vulnerability is openness, not a confession contest. The mind can reveal every secret while the body stays closed. The body can say three honest words and open an entire relationship. 8. The familiar does not automatically mean love. The body may chase what resembles childhood. The body may overlook the human being who is actually present. 9. Connection returns to your body before it reaches another human being. The mind cannot abandon you and then demand that another person make you feel whole. The reach must find you there too. 10. Pain gets company before it gets advice. The mind rushes to fix. Connection stays long enough to feel. Pain with nobody there stays a knot. Pain that is met can finally open. Which rule made your body pause? Which rule would change the way you connect today? There is no wrong answer here. The body is already telling the truth.

Downloaded lee's book about TF PTSD this looks a good read .

Long before I became The Connectionist, I was a child carrying a universe of feeling in a world that didn't know what to do with it. In December 2007, two months after my mind fell apart on the floor, the child started writing letters. Every reply ended with: Love Deeply, Clark. Nine kinds of unqualified, but the only one willing to sit and feel the ache with others. Across the top of that original site, I wrote one line: "Relationships come from connection. Connection is the key to healing." Today, I'm sharing the journey of how that feeling child became the power source for everything Sherry and I teach and live: https://clarkkent07.wordpress.com/2026/07/26/from-clark-kent-to-the-connectionist/

https://clarkkent07.wordpress.com/2026/07/17/twin-flames-the-truth-beneath-every-role-consciousness-vs-unconsciousness/

would you be interested in classes for this?