I understand that we are to forgive, as we have been forgiven by Christ. However, I remember hearing June Hunt say that in abusive relationships - you can forgive; but still not have the abusive person in your life. I currently have a situation with someone in my church, that I feel like has been mentally abusive, in a demanding control over my life way. So my question is, how do you have boundaries & forgiveness, when it's someone in the body? To be a bit more specific, I am involved with the local political world. This person was going to break a vow they took to hold their first political office for 4 years, just a few months after being elected; in order to run for a much higher office. I told them that would not be the way to go. That the Bible says not to break our vows. This person got very angry with me, because they claimed God told them to do it. My Pastor told me I could not tell them what God did or did not say to do; & that I needed to mend the relationship. So I took her out to eat, & said we would probably never agree on the situation; but that we were still sisters in Christ, & sisters disagree. She was happy to hear that; but I think what she "heard" was that I was admitting I was wrong, & would never speak about that political topic ever again. Because about 6 months later, I was talking to someone else about how some Conservative people have been accusing other Conservatives of being "traitors" or "not Christian" & shunning them; simply for voting differently than they did. I brought up that the shunning had started months ago, when I was kicked out of a certain political group for disagreeing about whether to support the person from my church running for a different office. The person from my church was not in the conversation; but someone there went & told them that I was talking "about them" - which I wasn't. I was talking about the group that kicked me out for thinking differently than the group. It just happened to be due to the issue we had disagreed about earlier. It could have been about any political topic - cuz the point was about people shutting others out for no justifiable reason.