First a confession: I have not done all the books, classes, groups and therapies. This was kind of my maiden venture into "ME stuff" and, in a surpise to no one based on the name - I HATE it. So why am I still here? 1. It changed me. (continues to) 2. knowing other people doing this, at their own pace, in public, without shame or apology with me 3. The people. The support, insight, celebration, engagement and collective dedication to growth. The nicest bunch of haters you'll ever meet.

I wish this existed before my divorce. I had become a complete pushover, saying "no" and then caving to pressure until I literally left my home/family/work/music and life I loved behind for someone who wiped the floor with me. If this sounds even remotely like you, it's not too late to reclaim your true self and live the life YOU want. Will you hate it? Yes, that's the point! But everyone in here is going through or has gone through this process also and the love and encouragement are palpable.

Tired of the endless videos and stacks of reading material you've watched and read only to stay in EXACTLY the same place as you were when you started? Tired of people who tell you how to do it but don't do it with you? Well, congratulations--you've discovered the IHYHT community! Join other heroes in the battle against the villains and demons of people pleasing! Coach Nick there with us on the Red Phone every week! Hate the battles, love the wins! Same Bat Time, Same Bat Channel!

Before joining IHYHT, I believed nothing could help me achieve the type of life that I was so Desperately Seeking Susan! After decades of therapy, Nick Pollard popped up on FB. Before joining 10 weeks ago, I couldn't hardly get out of bed in the morning, maybe in the afternoon? I would stay in bed on my cell. Now look at me rock! Every day I grow, evolve, change important behaviors & make life better! Love this community & the supportive, accepting people here! Come on down!

I have followed Nick on Instagram for years. Then I saw the quiz, took it, and connected with Nick about this amazing community. I was skeptical, thought I was too old, and then he said whether you have 15 minutes or 15 years left on this planet, wouldn’t you like to be happy? That’s what helped me click “join” and I’ve not looked back. The work isn’t pleasant, but the results can literally change your life. I love this community, and I’m beginning to love and respect myself.