Yesterday, at 65 years old, I went back to the Bronx with my childhood friend and best friend, Danny Silvagnoli. Danny and I have known each other for more than 50 years. We met as kids, somewhere around sixth grade, and our lives have crossed through more seasons than either of us could have understood back then. I went back wanting to see some of the places where I grew up, take photographs, record some video, sit with Danny and talk, and simply pay attention. That last part became more important than I expected. There is a thought that has been following me for some time now: If I had known how important those moments were, I would have paid more attention. Yesterday, I paid attention. One of our first stops was the Mitchel Houses, where I lived as a young boy. My mother used to tell me that our family was among the first families to move into the projects when they were new. Before that, we had lived in terrible conditions not far away. Getting that apartment represented something better for her and for her five children. There were five of us. My sister Loretta was the oldest. I was second. Then came Tony, Carol and Mary. When I look back now, I understand that my childhood cannot be reduced to one simple story. My father abused alcohol and was violent toward my mother. Eventually, she made the decision to lock him out and divorce him. I was only around seven or eight years old the last time I remember seeing him as a child. I would not see him again until I was in my fifties, shortly before he died. My mother had her own struggles with alcohol after my father was gone. There were times when she was not the mother we needed her to be. There were reasons I did not want to be home, and eventually there were periods when the streets became where I lived. Those truths matter. So do some other truths. My mother was raising five children. She fought to get us into better housing. She found ways to put us in school. She worked. She sacrificed. She made mistakes, sometimes serious ones. And in many moments, with whatever she understood and whatever she had available to her, she gave it her best. At 65, I can hold more than one truth at the same time. I don't have to rewrite the painful parts of my childhood to recognize my mother's courage, and I don't have to turn her into a saint in order to have compassion for the human being she was.