This one is not mine but it was definitely one of the biggest game changers for myself when I just couldn't see my husband the way I needed to. I was stuck in self, stuck in resentment, anger, bitterness and we hadn't repaired. This is the tool that got me out of that, in addition to getting coaching for myself!
If you have a hard time adding to this- it's because your heart is hard, bitter, and unforgiving. I know...I was there too. But once I really started down this road and made it a goal to add at least 1 thing per day, that's when the shift really started showing up. This is also the one tool that I go back to after discord to help me get back into humility, love, compassion and gratitude the fastest.