Throughout a typical week, I find myself in feminine spaces. Which makes me have to consider more closely how I show up as a man with masculine energy. I was once one of those new age wimps who made himself smaller when entering a room with a group of people, mostly women. If I was being introduced, my hands would be in my pocket or clasped at my belly in some form of psychic land acknowledgement for being one in solidarity with the feminine instead of displaying masculine polarity (alert, upright, shoulders back, chest up, scan room for eye contact and threats, walk slowly, breathe calmly, sit where you can see an exit, etc. you know, masculine). "I am not a threat," I may as well have said. Having worked on my presence and my value as a man, I show up calm and collected in my masculine energy. The protector, the generator of safety and trust, the pragmatic, one who will stand up and ask questions. If being masculine triggers anyone, it's a sign to avoid those people - not to tread, not to judge, they have their demons - and protect yourself from their negativity. Quiet, calm, and collected until the situation requires more. How does this relate to dating? When meeting one woman for the first time (solo, not in a group) going through her head is something like this: Any "ewww" (creepy, disgust) factors? How formidable is he (threat, protector)? Does he speak in sentences (have a brain)? Does he have manners/treat others well? Is he useful? Does he have values/mission/purpose? Do his words match his actions? Baked in to all of these is the question of what is the man you want be? Polarity is a baked in assumption to online dating (man seeks woman, woman seeks man). Aside from the answers of personal growth, fitness, and self-help that most of you already have discovered sometime along your journey, answer the polarity question and get real about how your show up in your best masculine. Can you do better? She wants you to.

Spoiler alert: title has the answer to the question "What Women Hate on a First Date (1940–2026)" so check it out and act accordingly: What Women Hate on a First Date (1940–2026)

A warning. Use of online dating apps can steal your focus away from your job, your purpose, your meaningful pursuits. Looking back on my use I realize how much of a distraction it was. The urge to see who’s out there, the fantasy of what is possible with a lover, the thrill of the chase. Working on a relationship is hard, but I’m glad I deleted the dating app as it freed up my mind’s bandwidth to pay more attention to real life.

My name is Jon, and I'm originally from the Los Angeles area. I am currently residing in Oregon, about an hour's drive from Eugene, Oregon, territory of the Ducks athletic program. I am here just to see if I can learn some new things that can help improve my chances of finding that special someone.

Hey guys, I'm a single 45 man in Warrnambool VIC Australia. I'm too shy/scared to approach women to begin with let alone with any intention to consider something more than friends, as such!? With the experiences I've gone through with women it's been devistating yet I still try to be kind, thoughtful caring and respecting everyone!