One thing I am changing in my onboarding: instead of telling new members to “introduce yourself,” I’m giving them three short prompts: - My name is… - One area I’m ready to improve is… - One small action I’m willing to take this week is… Then I ask every new member to leave a short message of encouragement on two other introductions—no advice, fixing, or pitching. My thinking: the first win in a community should be participation, not content consumption. What is one onboarding prompt or ritual that has increased early member engagement in your group?

Hey everyone — Samy here from Windsor, Ontario, currently posting from somewhere off the coast at sea. Quick intro: - 60 years old, entrepreneur, podcaster, live full-time on a cruise ship - Started October 2025 at 345 lbs. Down 75 lbs today, still going, surrounded by all-you-can-eat buffets every day - That transformation forced me to build what I actually needed: an identity-first coaching program, not another diet or habit plan I just launched Transformed At Sea on Skool — an 8-module identity-transformation program for people done starting over. The premise: every restart fails because you're trying to change what you do without changing who you are. So we flip it — identity first, daily evidence, environment engineered so the new you is the easy you. I've built the full classroom (40 lessons), workbook, private community, AI accountability layer, and coach support. The product is real. The positioning is tight.

I went through the full Identity Transformation program, including the initial audit, workbook modules and personalized coaching reports. What I found most valuable was that the program did not simply accept my first explanation for why I was getting stuck. It repeatedly forced me to look at whether my own explanation for a problem was actually supported by what I was doing. As I moved through the program, broad ideas like “I need more willpower” were narrowed into much more specific questions about task selection, competing priorities, environment, uncertainty, and the difference between starting something and actually finishing it. Problems that had felt vague or personal became much more concrete and testable. That was probably the most useful part of the program for me: it made vague problems observable. The program also changed how I thought about setbacks. A missed commitment was not automatically treated as proof that nothing had changed; recovery mattered too. Later reports treated recovery and changed behaviour as evidence that some earlier, more absolute conclusions were too broad. That made the process feel more like an investigation than a personality assessment. Overall, I found the program effective because it gave me something more useful than encouragement: it progressively improved the quality of the questions I was asking about myself. I came away with a better understanding not only of where I was getting stuck, but of how to distinguish between a genuine obstacle, an excuse, an ineffective system, and a problem that I had simply been describing too broadly. That made it easier to identify changes that could actually be tried and measured, and that has been the most valuable result for me.

You do not need to have everything figured out, be perfectly motivated, or arrive with a flawless plan. You only need enough honesty to notice what is no longer working and enough willingness to take one small, aligned step. Start with the Welcome lesson, keep your Google Sheet private and real, and use this Community for encouragement—not performance. Share what feels appropriate, celebrate honest progress, and remember: when life gets hard, you do not need a restart. You need a return.