Everybody expects you to have it figured out already. Truth is, three weeks in, you're not supposed to have a plan for your whole life. You're supposed to be standing in the wreckage, feeling every bit of this. That's not you falling behind — that's you right on track. Nobody hands you a manual, and nobody moves through this clean. Feeling this shaken means you're exactly where you need to be. The plan comes later. Right now, just find the first thing to grab.

78 years old, and I've had more thrown on me quickly than most people see in a lifetime. No warning, no time to prepare, just handle it or don't. I can help you get organized and get moving again, one decision at a time. That's what I do.

With everything spinning around in your head it all seems urgent. Did you do the brain dump and get it all in front of you. Any of it have time attached to it, when it absolutely must be done. .Go through and attache time frames to help narrow down the urgent.

Your head won't shut up right now, and that's not a flaw. When everything gets flipped overnight, your brain throws every problem at you at once, the money, the house, the people, all of it, usually at three a.m. I know, you just wish your brain would shut up and leave you alone for five minutes. Here's why it won't. It's not trying to torture you, it just doesn't want you to forget anything, so it lets it all rattle around in your skull instead. So try this. Grab one piece of paper, no categories, no order, and start writing down everything that's rattling around in there. Get it out of your head and onto that page. Once it's on paper, your brain can let go. It knows it's not going to lose anything, because it's sitting right there in front of you. Tonight you might actually sleep a little better. What's the one thing that keeps circling back the most for you today?