"If you enter this world knowing you are loved and you leave this world knowing the same, then everything in between can be dealt with!" - Michael Jackson

What's the right age to give your child a phone? I know most of are American parents, but I'm an African parent. I give my daughter a phone last year on her 13th birthday, but an incident happened that is trending on social media that made me question myself if I did the right thing. I control her phone and she doesn't use it during school days since she's in boarding. A15 years old boy groomed a younger girl of 8years into having phone s..e..x. This happened through Snapchat. He told the little girl that if she didn't do what he said, he would go to their house as ghost and hurt her and her mom. The girl tried to tell him that God will punish her for doing such act, but this boy kept on convincing her that it was okay. She is young, but she knows God. Somehow, she agreed to do what he told her and she even sent him photos and he also send her his nudes. I feel sick just writing this. How often do you check your child's phone? Have you taught them about grooming, manipulation, inappropriate messages, strangers online, sexual exploitation, and what to do when someone makes them uncomfortable. And most importantly, we need to teach them that, “If anyone asks you for a sexual picture, threatens you, scares you, or tells you to keep a secret from your parents, come to me immediately. You will not be punished for telling me.” That's how her innocence has been exposed to world, with the incident spreading across media. What a nightmare for the parents! Though I restricted certain apps from daughter's phone, but I'm still terrified when such incidents happen.

“Your life has a design, but understanding that design takes time.” — Renee Howard Along the way, you’ll have many purposes—things you’re called to learn, build, nurture, survive, and become. Faith is foundational because it keeps you grounded while everything else is still taking shape. Sometimes the systems that help you survive can also become places you grow comfortable depending on. The goal is to receive the help you need without losing sight of the life you’re still responsible for building. Eventually, you begin to recognize the traps, not simply as failures, but as lessons. And with every lesson, you understand your design a little more. The more you learn who you are, what you value, what you’re capable of, and what God has placed inside you, the more intentionally you can move from survival to independence,and build a life that gives you a reason to keep getting up and becoming. 💜

You don't know how much pain/ joy you've held onto until you start writing a book. I have been so overwhelmed by emotions the past three days that today I even contacted a lawyer cause I feel like I need justice for daughter and I. Yes, I got pregnant as teenager through rape though I don't like to say it out loud. After he did that to me, he even denied the pregnancy and the child until today. His family accepted my daughter, but he hasn't accepted my daughter. My daughter will be joining high school next year and it's been me alone funding for everything. I had felt ashamed for so long to share my side of story cause I never talked about it, but yesterday I got the courage to contact him and his brother. He still doesn't want to acknowledge my daughter. So today, I contacted a lawyer friend for consultation. I feel like I'm ready to get justice for my daughter and I. May God help me.

I survived what was meant to break me. Now I’m coming back healed, wiser, stronger, and with God. Everything the enemy tried to steal is being restored. 🙌🏾✨ #WrightfullyBecoming