I completed the Trainings TIARA, Family Mastery Academy, and Family Mastery Mastermind Takeaways. TIARA - Anger is part of our emotional guidance system. It is not bad or wrong, not to be invalidated or repressed, and it points to a desire or a need that is unfulfilled. - Attuned Anger Management is where you establish a safe space, share experiences, projections, align desires, and collaborate for solutions. So that everybody is seen, heard, and satisfied. - Solving problems for kids steals their Agency. I was raised in a family where my parents solved problems for several of my siblings and they are now having problems functioning in life. I am standing for healing in my family of origin. - What replaced connection for me when it wasn't available? I don't need them. I'll find my own things to do that inspire me. - The concept of Engagement quality. That Isolated Consumption deregulates and Relational Engagement regulates. - The concept of Askability. Being open and safe for kids to share anything. - Family Structures. Wondering what mine was. I think it was Stable and Dysfunctional. - And the amazing thought that when one person shifts, everybody shifts. I want to be that! for my family! Family Mastery Academy - The differences between the Attunement Model and DSM. That problems in people come from problems in the bonds in the family. - The idea that there is a relationship between child reactivity and the parent child relationship. - Behavior as a response to unattuned environments. How can I apply this to my school? - The idea that anywhere you apply Attunement there will be improved relationships. Family Mastery Mastermind - The idea of Attuned everything, attuned schools, attuned mental health, attuned prisons, where we are attuned to people. - The concept that a parentified structure lacks intimacy. I think I came from a parentified structure and that I had no awareness that I was in that structure. That I will need to disrupt the status quo. I am confronting that and ready to step into that. That is a blind spot for me.

Congratulations!!! Never did I expect such an incredible group of people!! @Ubaid Ur Rehman Sherwani @William Brady @Brandon Smith @Jordyn Milbrath @Dr. Mandy Stephenson @Emo Schiappa @Kimberly Probst @Svetlana Tikhomirova Bringing The Attunement Model of Care To Medical Care, Addiction Medicine, Veteran Healthcare, Foster Care, Special Education, Parenting. Ubaid - Attunement System Changer Frontline Healthcare Workers Bill - Attunement System Changer Addiction Treatment Emo - Attunement System Changer Addiction Treatment Jordyn - Attunement System Changer Addiction Treatment Brandon - Attunement System Changer Veteran Healthcare Mandy - Attunement System Changer Foster Care Kimberly - Attunement System Changer Homeschool and Education Svetlana - Attunement Parenting Education Welcome to the BIG GAME!!! I’m so grateful 🙏 to be supporting you in changing the world 🌍 You are manifesting miracles ❤️🙏

I am almost done watching the trainings inside the classroom. Here are a few of my reflections: Why I’m excited about attunement training: 1. 1. I’ll deepen my understanding of relational health and have an opportunity to work toward healing and reconciliation within my family of origin. 2. 2. I’ll learn the TIARA approach and bring those skills to the individuals and families I support as a burnout recovery advisor. 3. 3. I’ll be better equipped to help providers attune to their own bodies and environments, as well as to the people in their care. 4. Three things I’ve learned from the videos so far: 1. 1. To depersonalize a reactive moment by decoding what is happening and responding with care. (depersonalize, decode,nurture) 2. 3. 2. To recognize disconnection in the moment and practice nervous sytem regulation practices 4. 5. 3. That healing my relationship with my former spouse may support greater balance in masculine and feminine dynamics, creating more room for growth and healing.

I have watched all the training in Why Tiara, Restore, and Activate! I am excited about attunement because I can make my own bonds with my kids and husband even stronger, and I can level up my bonds with my brothers who themselves have children. I am hoping to connect more deeply with my sisters who are much younger than me and who both have significant mental health issues (we had one sister die of an overdose at age 28 which we have never fully processed I don't think. I was diagnosed with breast cancer a couple of months after her death and I do feel they are related). She has two kids who I have formed bonds with (their dad struggles greatly with mental health) so I am sure he would be keen to learn about attunement as well and I am hoping to help them heal from their Mum's death (their dad shit talks my sister all the time). From a professional perspective I want to be a better foster parent and I want to help my kids be the best foster siblings they can be. I want to help foster parents have a sense of agency in their roles which can feel so heavy at times. Things are so disjointed and care is very reactive, so if I can do anything to break this constant cycle of reactivity, the pathologisation of children who basically become label collectors in their time in care, and help foster parents stay fostering because they are less burnt out, then I would consider that a massive win. From the videos... There is of course complexity in how we think about the ideas of attunement in specific contexts, but the underlying principles are very clear. We are naturally nurturing beings - this has been trained out of us as a race, we need to get it back. This, as far as I believe, is pivotal to our survival as a human race. There is no such thing as fixed or broken - I have always believed this but it is good to have that validated because it is NOT how the current system is set up. Diagnose..treat...send on their way... like a conveyor belt which no one has thought to get off of. This is allowing me to build on the stuff I leave learnt elsewhere in IFS which also strongly resists pathologising people. It also validated what I have been thinking about for a number of years as my own children have grown up, which is that it isn't my job to fix everything for them, they have to be able to own their own problems and I cannot carry everybody's problems in order to make myself "lovable" by being "useful". One thing it has also cemented is permission to express the fact that my needs matter too but in a way which everyone can win. If one person "wins" and one "loses" then everyone has lost.